http://askayeti.com/2009/11/my-girlfriends-boyfriend/ An advice column written by a Yeti Tue, 27 Jul 2010 22:22:21 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 http://askayeti.com/2009/11/my-girlfriends-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-190 VALERIE Sun, 04 Jul 2010 18:53:19 +0000 http://askayeti.com/?p=300#comment-190 Hey you do right in being suspicious but also you are doing wrong in not trusting her.What you need to do is look at the little things and look outside the box, how much time you and her spend together and how much time she and him spend together also. dont tell her to choose she will feel offended but ask her little questions until you find out what you want to hear. also have a little talk with her friend but not a tough talk you dont want to make your girlfriend mad. Hey you do right in being suspicious but also you are doing wrong in not trusting her.What you need to do is look at the little things and look outside the box, how much time you and her spend together and how much time she and him spend together also. dont tell her to choose she will feel offended but ask her little questions until you find out what you want to hear. also have a little talk with her friend but not a tough talk you dont want to make your girlfriend mad.

]]> http://askayeti.com/2009/11/my-girlfriends-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-94 Jamie Fri, 16 Apr 2010 17:12:47 +0000 http://askayeti.com/?p=300#comment-94 I agree with you. That was a very mature and careing choice you made to step back but still be there for your friend. I can see the problem. If the shoe was on the other foot Id feel very uncomfortable and would want to know I was just as important. but then again if the person is into them enough it will happen. and there friendship will still be strong. I agree with you. That was a very mature and careing choice you made to step back but still be there for your friend. I can see the problem. If the shoe was on the other foot Id feel very uncomfortable and would want to know I was just as important. but then again if the person is into them enough it will happen. and there friendship will still be strong.

]]> http://askayeti.com/2009/11/my-girlfriends-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-73 David D Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:46:36 +0000 http://askayeti.com/?p=300#comment-73 Well Ted, I feel your pain. I have been in a plutonic relationship with a girl for six years. I've seen boyfriends come and go several times over the years and they all pretty much respond the same when they are made aware that their new girlfriend has a 6'5" 225lb black man as a best friend. It was funny to me at first, but I began to realize that my presence was running away potentially great guys from my best friends life. We did absolutely everything together, and it made the guys insecure. I thought about how I would feel if I were in their shoes and knew that my girlfriend was out and about with this guy who in each case was more successful than the boyfriend. I much to the chagrin of my friend distanced myself from her. Although I am still there if she needs me, there is a distinct difference in our relationship. Since the time I've distanced myself from her, she has been in a committed relationship with this guy who seems to be ok. I am very happy to see that her relationship has been able to flourish in my absence. Although painful, I am happy with the outcome of my decision. If I were you I would either move on to another woman, or let her know in no uncertain terms that you are uncomfortable with her relationship. If you don't you will remain miserable. Well Ted, I feel your pain. I have been in a plutonic relationship with a girl for six years. I’ve seen boyfriends come and go several times over the years and they all pretty much respond the same when they are made aware that their new girlfriend has a 6′5″ 225lb black man as a best friend. It was funny to me at first, but I began to realize that my presence was running away potentially great guys from my best friends life. We did absolutely everything together, and it made the guys insecure. I thought about how I would feel if I were in their shoes and knew that my girlfriend was out and about with this guy who in each case was more successful than the boyfriend. I much to the chagrin of my friend distanced myself from her. Although I am still there if she needs me, there is a distinct difference in our relationship. Since the time I’ve distanced myself from her, she has been in a committed relationship with this guy who seems to be ok. I am very happy to see that her relationship has been able to flourish in my absence. Although painful, I am happy with the outcome of my decision. If I were you I would either move on to another woman, or let her know in no uncertain terms that you are uncomfortable with her relationship. If you don’t you will remain miserable.

]]> http://askayeti.com/2009/11/my-girlfriends-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Charlee Sat, 09 Jan 2010 13:10:33 +0000 http://askayeti.com/?p=300#comment-37 ok you should listen to that advice and also ask her if she likes you she will tell you everything im not saying to ask her to stop hanging out with her friend (wrong thing to do) just ask if she may have feelings for her friend with out realizing it. if she does you might have to let her go but still be friends. REMEMBR friends last forever realtionsships come and go. ok you should listen to that advice and also ask her if she likes you she will tell you everything im not saying to ask her to stop hanging out with her friend (wrong thing to do) just ask if she may have feelings for her friend with out realizing it. if she does you might have to let her go but still be friends. REMEMBR friends last forever realtionsships come and go.

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