I Think I’m In Love With My Boss
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Written by admin on December 7, 2009 – 6:20 am
Dear Yeti,
I think I may be in love with my boss. I have been working at my new job for 3 months now. I begun picking up on subtle romantic undertones from my boss who is in his forties and happily married. One day he asked me if I wanted to go for a ride on his motorcycle, so I went. After that day I got so turned on everytime I am around him. Eventually it happened where we were together alone in our shop and we had the most amazing sex I’ve ever had in my life. After that he told me that what happened was a mistake and that he was really in love with his wife. I’m not the type of girl to get involved with a married man but I can’t stop thinking about him. Plus everyone in our shop says that his wife is a lesbian. I never wanted to be in a situation like this but here I am. I don’t dare lead on that I’m into him as much as I am but it’s starting to interfere with my work. What’s really messing me up is that my boss is almost 20 years older than me. Should I start snooping into his personal life to see if I am missing something about his supposed marriage or should I just back off entirely.
Betty Bop
Dear ABC,
Dear BB
This guy doesn’t happen to be a professional golfer by any chance does he? Why are you using the gossip of coworkers to justify your infidelity with this guy? You need to realize that all that talk about the boss’s wife being a closet lesbian is just hear say. No you can’t use that to validate any future “transgretions” (Shout out to the Tiger Woods legal team for this phrase). Oh and by the way all this dirty laundry about the boss’s gay wife will be peanuts compared to the gossip that will come out if you don’t cool it with this affair. I think what you are really asking me is do I get out of this situation, and how?
First off your poor philandering boss is probably scared he’s going to loose both his business and his wife over his misconduct. It’s probably best to discuss this situation with him one on one before doing anything else. The fact that he has cut off your romantic relationship cold turkey is probably a sign that he does remain a shred of dignity, and wishes to regress into his quasi normal life again. Advise him that you wish to air out all your feelings with him and ask if he has anything to divulge. Should you tell his wife? Yea probably, being open and honest is cathartic and help you add closure to this chapter in you life. However you should put out some feelers on this first. If it’s true that this marriage is a sham and he is nothing but a beard for his wife it may be a valid excuse for putting the breaks on the confession. The truth is that other peoples relationships can be incomprehensible for outsiders and that infidelity and public infidelity can be two different things entirely.
Lastly women who have and act on their “daddy complex” are often easy targets for crafty married men. Try dating unattached men your own age with whom you can relate to.
A Yet
Bear B
Come out of the game and do focus on you , That is good stable piece of work if you could handle yourself being go for a man almost 20 years older could be a experiece that you need to spell your self. By the way making such decisions making your way more confusing , beter to be clear and go to men with you could comfortably relate
LIsten, you little homewrecker, I hope his wife finds out about his romantic undertones or whaever you called them and your “love”. I hope his kids find out,too. Then I hope you both get what you so dearly deserve. When his wife and kids take him for everything he’s got his old ass won’t look so good to you anymore. Get your own guy you little wh**e! Trash!!!!
P.S your bos just wanted to hit that. Though it must of not ben that good if he tells u im sorry after words. The only thing i can see that would scare a man away from an easy undergound affair would be. That your obviously too clingy and got too serious to fast which is your fult really. Just hope he dont see you as a threat and hope he dont decide to fire your ass. Three months you say, i need to look into owning a business and a motercycle.lol.
LOL… Hey.. I’m married and 39 years old and I have a motorcycle!!!!! I think your cute, too!!!!! Wanna hook up??!! You aren’t married, and you have no obligation to anyone. He’s the one who broke his vows, not you. If you love him, tell him!!!! go for it!!
hey
firstly i want to tell you some thing!!!!!!!1
if you love any one you must tell him about your love so you doesnt exposed to trauma in feeling so love anyone who love you firstly
and dont love your boss exactly
thank you
Im married and have two kids, I have been with my husband for 15 yrs. We are high school sweetheardts who had a baby to young but we made it. Thats something you dont see often enough. As a mom and wife I wouldnt wish for my kids to ever know id there daddy made that mistake and if It really was a one time thing and he is not “that” man that is cheating all the time then why mess a familys life up. Leave him alone and be a better person. He has has to live with hisself and so do you. Theres more people involved then just your feelings. His kids!
Obviosly not only are you the “type” to go with a MARRIED man you are a dumb ass! First off you NEVER screw your boss, you don’t screw “husands” unless they are your own and IF your too stupid to walk away from someone who treated you like used toilet paper then you deserve what ever he wants to throw at you. As far as going into his personal life there is a word for that…. STALKER. YOU ARE IN NEED OF ANOTHER JOB SOMEWHERE ELSE AND MUCH COUNSELING. OH and by the way it was the bike vibrating between your legs that turned you on. And if this is the way he treats his wife it’s a small wounder she’s gay (which i doubt).
maybe he want just take enjoy time like sex or like that or he love you because himself think you are so lovely …..it apossibility
sofyannnnnnnnn
Dear BB,
Wow, interesting situation. First off, I think that anyone who can cheat on his wife can cheat on you. I’m not calling you homewreaker or anything. I think you just fell for him because your young and he’s a lot older and knows more. He’s a jerk, and yet its both your faults. You knew he was married and he knew what he was doing. I think you should just move on from the situation. I always try to be honest and its worked so far. Not much people like my honesty but it has to be said. Tell his wife, move on and get a different job. Tell him that he was a mistake and that he took advantage of you. Let this be a learning experience to you and never do it again. unless they are single. LOL – Tia
Dear Betty, You go Girl!!
Hello BB.
Need I say that you remind me of my slutty ex wife?
I know yer young and attractive, but your boss is married and you knew it.
He is a complete Asss face and you decided to be his little whore.
Which one of you is going to have the stomach to break his wife’s heart?
Chances are she had dinner ready for him when he came home after his roll in the hay with you. If I’m being too hard on you it may be that I understand all too well the pain that his wife is going to feel when she finds out about his betrayal.
Stop making excuses for your selfish, slutty ways, and stop having sex with married men. Hope I didn’t hurt yer feelings too much but yer out of line BB.
Knock it off.
Now, Have a nice day.
Oh… Betty,
It is very common for young women to be attracted to their bosses. They have the power and control so when you get control over him it’s like an erotic fantasy. That’s how it should have remained… BUT shame on both of you for acting on it!! You both could have lost your jobs and and lives ruined forever!!! Not only your boss, but his wife and children could also be affected.
Picture him without his job, growing old, loosing his hair, big, fat beer belly hanging over his jeans, sitting on the couch, burping and farting…asking you for beer money, while he treats you like dirt and takes every young babe he can for rides on his bike! You’ll wonder what you every saw in this person!
I hope you have learned something from this. Please let this go and find yourself someone you can enjoy life with.
Dear BETTY,,,, I HOPE U WILL ENJOY UR LIFE AS USUAL….. u still young..n just believe that god had choose someone to us just wait n see.. maybe he is not ur true love… just good in sex… but not enough to be good husband n leader of family maybe… just keep n try with another guy… n make a choice… wish u luck babe!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Betty,
U knew what, u r so awesome looking women. First of all know the difference between love and infactuation..
when we are with someone daily we would feel oh my god we are in love”" Njoy ur life betty. U would find ur true love. trust me. Till then , like new born baby, explore this world.
Wellwisher
Betty whats up girl seriousley its not wort it im a 34 year old women and being with an older man isent all that. and obvisoly i know beacuse im in that situation .dont get me wrong hes very caring and pretty much loyal,but im lucky if he could get it up. i would suggest you leave that man alone. your a very pretty young lady.move on and i wish you the best a luck.
Dear Betty,
I know how you feel about falling in love with your boss. This is situation what you made up your own decision to leave alone from your boss but he is married man. I would like you to leave that married man. I hope that you can find someone else who willing to come to your life in the future.
You must be focus your control of your life and understanding what people said to you, You will have marry virgin male who not married man. Many handsome guys is different persons what you should choose or you like.
Make sure if you could be think how will you feel about that. Don’t be mess uo or ruined your life. Okay. I wish you the best luck.
Good luck!! Tough situation when love or even just feelings are involved. But know that if you walk away now and work on yourself, you will see the situation for what it really is within a year at most, like we all do when feelings are not involved. Just learn from it and try not to repeat the same mistake. This did happen for a reason, I believe that. Grow from it and don’t stalk his wife, life or family. Just quit you job and move on with your life. Start there.