No Comments Written by admin on January 4, 2010 – 1:51 pm

Dear Yeti,
I’m just find out this site and i think u can give some good suggestions to me. i’m a guy studying in matriculation college in my country. Here i got mess up. I’ve crushed to two person here, a girl n a guy. This so make my head turn around 360 degree or just more than that. The girl is my classmate n i just like her as other guy like a girl. but i think the chance for me and her to make up is so small(lots of reasons why i think like that). Then i just wait n see. About the guy, he is my senior n x roommates. I don’t know what actually happen between me n him. but what makes sense is he mad of me as i so want to pampered by him n made he thought me that i was gay. At first i so mad he said i’m a gay. but by time i realized that i really love him(as a lover not a brother). so this all make me think, what actually am i, a straight guy or maybe a gay or just having a bisexuality orientation of sex.In my society being a gay was a taboo. then its made me feelings guilty of loving a guy. but at the same time i’m still having the crush towards the girl( describe early). so what have i supposed to do???

Matrico

Dear Matrico,

In reading your letter I realize that English is not your first language, which is why I am flattered you would take the time to write to a yeti. The community in which you live does not accommodate the homosexual lifestyle and this has you confused about your same-sex romantic urges. The homosexual community is no stranger to persecution. However, that idea is outdated and more and more places are catching up to the global standard of tolerance for all lifestyles. So you say you are a college student with attractions to both men and women?

The funny thing about life is that it often throws you into situations that are beyond your control. It’s important to keep in mind that you only live once (even those who believe in reincarnation agree that focusing on this life is paramount). Denying yourself the opportunity to evolve as a human being can be far more damaging than any persecution you may receive in society. That is, assuming homosexuality is not illegal in your society. Please note the following chart displaying counties that outlaw homosexuality, and those that exercise the death penalty.

Now assuming that you don’t live in any of these countries, which is a likely possibility, let me make this perfectly clear to you. Acting out your homosexual desires is not in any way wrong. The fact that you are confused about the direction your life should take is only proof that you should experiment and collect more life experience so you become more comfortable with who you are.

If you do live in a country which persecutes homosexuals and you wish to exercise your human right to live any lifestyle which you choose, there is a solution, however difficult: move to another country. Historically strong gay and bi-sexual communities have formed all around the globe from the city of Faaa in French Polynesia, to the Castro district in San Francisco. If your gut is telling you to follow society’s standards, it’s good to remember that your gut has shit for brains.

A Yeti