I've got a problem with this new girl I'm dating. I have spent more money and more time going out with this girl than I've ever had with any other girl. I'm used to a little more action at this point I guess is what I'm saying. I've always gone out for drinks, then to a girl's place or mine for sex or something like that. What's even worse when I do make a move she will push me away and say it's too soon. I feel our dates have been a waste. I'm ready for a relationship, and like her enough, but I'm not sure how much longer I can go without sex.
Dear Handsome Andy,
Are you writing me from some alternate universe where life is like some pornographic beer commercial? Some place where average looking dudes score major points with their offerings of lame jokes and Coors light? Really, you just casually bump into women at your local watering hole and take them home to “score,” regularly? I find this hard to believe but, whatever.
I take that back, women are obviously into you so you’re probably better than average looking. Which I think has led you down an unfortunate path when it comes to the opposite sex. Is it possible that you’re unfamiliar how to actually relate to women?
This girl you are with now probably wants to establish some sort of connection with you before she agrees to tolerate your unskilled love making sessions. Sounds crazy, huh! Don’t be alarmed; this is quite normal. Whatever physical attributes you may possess have conditioned you to think that bypassing any real human romantic emotion is a realistic option. Which has helped you get comfortable with your whole “f*** and run” scheme. I think you’ll find that you’re missing out.
Don’t let this girl go. For you she may be a lot of work, but hard work has its reward. With Valentines Day just around the corner, maybe it’s time to turn down the volume on your whole “player” idea and go for something with a little bit more substance. Most women hate being alone on Valentines Day so you’ve got a slow pitch right over the plate. Be sure to knock it out of the park and you’ll probably get an invite to play the old “in and out game” real soon.