Ok here it goes... I was raised old fashion and waited to have sex until my marriage... I had boyfriends but never had sex with them. Now I have been married for 3 years and have never had a full climax. I sometimes think to my self if I would have had sex with my ex's would I have or what is going wrong that I don't because my husband does last long but still nothing.
What makes me cringe in your question is the idea that you think that the catalyst for you climax seems to be lying in the beanbag of some old boyfriend. What are you thinking here? Is it that your husband is so unskilled behind closed doors that you have missed out on any opportunity for coital gratification. Be real, this is about two things; your regret in not having multiple sexual partners and a sexual dysfunction in your marriage. Lets address the inexperience first.
It’s perfectly reasonable to think that of all the boyfriends now in the review mirror at least one of them would have made a great sexual partner. In fact it’s more than likely true. However this is not your path and it’s important to understand your motivation in remaining abstinent. Was it your religious beliefs? Was it fear, respect, body concerns? Either way it was the decision you were most comfortable with at the time and one you must respect now. I believe even in these situations your comfort level and overall guilt would have made these sexual encounters awkward and unpleasurable. In most women (definitely generalizing here) sexual encounters improve in a stable relationship where both partners are committed to each other and to improving sexual performance.
The key to answering this question, is understanding if there is any pulse at all in your current sex life. If the answer is yes, be open and vocal about what you like and what you need. The belief than penetration by a man inside a woman is what brings women to climax is perhaps the biggest myth in our society today. The hard truth is that men and women are for the most part mismatched in this area. Most women are not even warmed up by the time most men have achieved climax. Its up to the woman here to slow things down and communicate their needs in an effort to keep pacing towards a mutually beneficial sexual experience. It’s experimentation, practice and self-exploration that will be your best guide to finding sexual gratification. Think outside the box, use toys, role-playing, and prolonged foreplay to get what you need.
There is a reason we use the term sexual partner, it takes two to tango. Take some ownership in you’re your own experience. A life without sexual satisfaction is not a life worth living. Its your right as a human being spinning around on this pebble of a plant to have your doors blown off every once in a while. Looking back at all the goobers who didn’t make the cut and wondering if they were hiding some sort of magic in their jeans is futile and ridiculous. Run to the nearest sex shop (with your husband maybe) find something new and exciting, get your husband on a better pace, and practice practice practice.